Issue 19: Disability
Frankie Dale | She/Her
A DAY IN THE LIFE
Last week I had a chat with my friend who works in the Wellington sex industry. Through our discussion, I learnt a lot about what the sex industry is really like:
How did you get into sex work? It’s something I had always been interested in, but I had never seriously considered doing until last year. I was googling something like ‘escorts Wellington’, and stumbled across this agency run by a woman that sounded awesome.
What does a typical day with bookings look like for you? I’m basically on call. But I can always say no and I’m never ever pressured into working. Once I’ve confirmed the booking, I’ll head to work, which is in a discreet CBD location. There are lots of clear rules during bookings to keep us both safe,and I can stop and walk out of the booking anytime I feel uncomfortable. Afterwards, we usually cuddle a little, then they’ll pay, shower, and leave. I clean the rooms, and then I’m out.
What are the best and most challenging parts of the job? The sense of making someone feel valued, listened to, and desired is super special—for many clients, it’s more about the companionship than the sex. I also love being part of such an empowering, feminist work environment. The money is pretty awesome too. It gives me the freedom to focus on my studies, treat myself and my friends, and save enough to pay off my entire student loan at age 20.
It’s challenging to avoid comparing yourself to others. Sometimes it’s hard when you haven’t had a booking in a couple of weeks. Also, dealing with the social stigma associated with being a sex worker, and keeping a part of your life hidden.
What effect does your work have on your mental health? It’s largely positive. Before entering the industry, I had quite a toxic relationship with sex. Sex work has helped me to understand my value. Now I’m like, why would I fuck some mediocre boy for free, when I could be getting $450 per hour?!
Sex work has also helped me immensely with my body image/disordered eating. I work with women of all different body types, and they’ve helped me to see my own beauty.
How do you keep yourself safe, and would you have any advice for people entering the industry? I feel so blessed to be living in a country where sex work is legally protected. The New Zealand Prositute’s Collective is amazing , and any type of sex worker can access their services—they offer free (or very cheap) supplies, counselling and sexual health services, and legal advice.
I would say do your research. Try and meet others in the industry, find SW communities on social media, know your legal rights, and apply for workplaces that are safe, fair, and feminist. Most importantly, be proud and educated about what you do!
For support
NZPA - New Zealand Prostitutes Collective
204 Willis St - Te Aro
Open Mon-Fri 10am-6pm
04-382-8791